Stop Watering Dead Plants

Sarahfina LoFaso
3 min readAug 11, 2020


Photo by Evie S. on Unsplash

It doesn’t matter what it is, if it is no longer serving you, it’s okay to walk away.

Whether it’s a relationship, job, friendship, ponytail, if it feels too constricting that’s your sign. Your red flag blowing in the wind. Just because you want someone in your life, doesn’t necessarily mean they have earned a place there. I have struggled with this thought more then ever recently. The quote “stop watering dead plants” repeats in my mind. When I have relationships that seem so one sided. Or feel so draining. Some environments, and people are only meant to be in your life for a purpose, not for permanent.

I think that’s a really hard concept to grasp when you’re such a people person. When you love to make everyone around you happy, nearly putting yourself in second place. But it’s even harder to grasp how you could be so good to some people and it isn’t reciprocated. That’s when you hit the breaking point. Where you’re not sure it’s worth it anymore. And maybe it’s just easier to throw up your hands and walk away.

I believe that everyone and everything comes into our lives for a reason. You’re either a blessing or a lesson, right? The silver-lining in any situation. After a bad breakup you’ll constantly hear how you dodged a bullet, how you’re so much better off, how they showed you what you truly deserve. And it is true. Everything in life is a learning curve to some extent.

So why do I continuously think “stop watering dead plants”? I keep envisioning myself walking over to my window sill, with a can of water, drenching dead succulents. And I know it makes no sense. That no amount of water will bring them back, yet I do it day after day. And that’s exactly what some things in life feel like.

Feeling drained by someone else is exhausting. Being in an environment that is toxic, can really have a massive effect on so many aspects of your life. And as hard as it may be to cut someone off, or to leave that job, to move on, it’s just as hard staying. So choose your hard. More times than I’d like to admit, I’ve held on to things that no longer served me. Relationships, most definitely both romantic and platonic. Jobs I’ve stayed at longer than I knew I should. I based decisions off of other people’s opinions, yet I’m still waiting for those opinions to pay my bills. Happiness comes from within. No one can create it for you. But you can surround yourself with people and places that add value to your happiness. I began to realize, that there were certain people in my world that brought more negativity than positivity. They were more interested in the drama, and the dirt then clapping for my wins. And I just couldn’t have that for another minute. It’s not like there were any falling outs, hard feelings, or fights. It just simply wouldn’t do any longer.

Life can be hard, but it is also beautiful. And how you choose to water yourself and your plants is entirely up to you and how you’ll see your beautiful world. Don’t let dead plants keep you from planting new ones. Choose your hard, but most of all choose yourself.

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Sarahfina LoFaso

Sarahfina is a published author and lifestyle blogger. She is working on her second novel, and you can find her work on