When You Think You’re Not Doing Great, But You’re Adult-ing Like A Boss

Sarahfina LoFaso
3 min readJan 17, 2020


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Life is a bitch. That’s no secret though. But you know what you think is? How well you are doing at this adult-ing thing. There are days that feel effortless, and then there are days that feel like you have the entire world on your back. Being a 20-something-year old in 2020 can feel intense. Trying to figure out who you are, what you want and how to navigate through this life can seem impossible. Read these soft reminders, when you think your life is falling apart but it really isn’t.

1. Your bills are paid on time

Everyone has bills, they seem to be inevitable. Paying yours on time is no small feat either. They can pile up quickly, and being able to pay them all is huge. Being able to pay them all on time, well that is even bigger. Pat yourself on the back, for no late fees, collection calls, and overdraft issues.

2. You have your own place

You don’t need to have your own place to show you’re an adult. But if you have your own residence, even if it’s shared, is a big part of growing up. Even if you have 5 roommates, you still have your own room. This is a vital one, when you are feeling down. You have not only moved out of your parents home, but you have successfully found a way to pay for the roof over your head. You are doing it all. on. your. own.

3. You have a job

I guess this one is obvious, if you are paying your bills and rent. But do you know how many people can’t do those things, because they don’t have a job? A lot. Or how many people have to work multiple ones, to make up a single salary income. Even if it isn’t your dream job, be grateful you have one.

4. You don’t depend on anyone for anything

So you’re self sufficient, need I say more?

5. You have food in your refrigerator

There are so many people going hungry. And I’m not talking about third world countries. There are people in your own town struggling. If you have food in your refrigerator and even the option to go out to eat, you’re in pretty good shape.

6. You throw away bad foods / condiments

Not the junk food, type of bad food. I mean the expired kind. When I lived at home, my mom was definitely responsible for this one. Now living on my own, I realized if I don’t do it, who will? But there is something quite liberating about cleaning out your fridge, and getting rid of anything that is no longer needed.

7. Your toilet bowl is cleaned regularly

Also something my mom was definitely responsible for. But have you ever used a restroom and noticed how dirty the toilet was? I have. I will never let my home be one of those places, that’s for sure! Clean toilet = you are A-okay.

8. You have a few close people you can count on

You’ve got your people. The one’s you can party with, and cry to in the same night. The ones who are down for adventures and vacations, or just sitting home sipping wine on the couch. The peeps that have pealed you off your bedroom floor and made sure you kept on pushing. Those people are important. Don’t forget to love on them.

9. You have the luxury of treating yourself often

Maybe you’re feeling a little down, or not so much like yourself. We all have those days. So you treat yourself to a manicure or a massage. You take yourself out to dinner. Maybe you just indulge in some ice cream. Know that luxuries like these aren’t always possible. But because you’re kicking ass at this adult stuff, you make it readily possible for yourself.

10. You have dreams and goals, you are trying to attain

This is a big one. We are all trying to figure ourselves out. Regardless if you’re 24 or 54 or even 74. Never stop striving for new things. Never stop pursuing your dreams. Because if you stop that means you’re no longer growing. And if you’re not growing, then what are you doing? Dying? I think not! Keep hustling and keep dreaming those dreams, babygirl.



Sarahfina LoFaso

Sarahfina is a published author and lifestyle blogger. She is working on her second novel, and you can find her work on www.sarahfinalo.weebly.com